Most of us are familiar with the concept of wooing and dating, and most of us are also aware that it’s just another term for sex. Wooing is the modern language of dating, so meet some of the lingo.

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“Woo” for “Wine”

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“Woo” can be used as a verb in various contexts: To woo is to try to win someone’s love or affection. If you’re “wooing” someone, it means you’re trying to be a perfect partner. Say you’re “wooing” a woman, for example, to impress her.

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“I’ve been wooing you all week,” is another way to say you are “fending off” someone who is trying to “conquer” you, or is “winning” your heart (i.e. “You’re the one” is the “conqueror,” and “You’re my heart” is the “wooer”).

You could also say “I was being wooed,” which is a variation on “I’ve been wooed.” Imagine a girl who likes you asking you out, and as soon as you say yes, you start receiving flowers and setting up a dinner date with her. The word “woo” here means you are “being wooed.”

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“I’m so pretty, so witty, and so outgoing—I’m a real catch.” To use this as a verb, you’d say “I’m wooing.” Say you are someone who is “wooing” people (usually young women) for dates. And this “wooing” might not necessarily be because you’re an attractive, fun guy.

Say, for example, you are “wooing” someone because you are a fan of her band and really want to see them perform live. The use of “wooing” for this purpose implies you are hoping she will accept your romantic overtures, but only in the event she accepts your romantic overtures.

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“Go for it, Dude.”

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This is pretty self-explanatory. If you are confident that your dating skills, approach, or wit are such
In the past decade, we’ve seen an absolute explosion in online dating, whether it’s personal dating sites like OkCupid or more niche online communities like The internet is providing people with more opportunities to meet potential partners than they ever have before, and while it’s awesome that it allows you to get to know someone before you meet them in real life, it’s also pretty daunting. For those who are ready to take the plunge, I’ve compiled my top tips for getting out there and dating safely.

1. Keep in mind there’s always going to be internet trolls. In my time on forums, I’ve seen a lot of women get swarmed by creeps and assholes. If you see something online that doesn’t feel right, get out of there. Talk to your friends, family, or even your local rape crisis center about online dating. Make sure that you’re safe and find good people. Also, read up on how to avoid getting swarmed and harassed.

2. Know the difference between personal and professional. The same people who are on Facebook when they should be working or are playing video games when they should be working are, unfortunately, also on dating sites. Make sure you’re only messaging or online dating with people who you know in person or at work. Make sure you understand the difference between being friendly with someone who isn’t your type and being interested in someone you think might be your future love.

3. The best way to get the most out of dating sites is to post the most. If you’re in a super-tight demographic (say, you’re a professor and your dating pool is just your department), make sure you post lots of profiles. Research has shown that the people who post the most profiles tend to be more attractive and more desirable than people who don’t. The reverse, however, is true for those who don’t post.

4. The first thing you should do when looking for a date is create a fantastic profile. You have a certain amount of time to get someone’s attention (which is, most likely, anywhere from five seconds to a week), so don’t waste that time by posting a crappy or plain profile. Pick out one to two things that make you unique and stick to those. You have a limited amount of words to describe yourself, and you need to fit them in succinctly. Think of it as a resume. The worst thing you can do is to write a paragraph long rant about yourself and expect someone